My dear friend needs serious help, need advice?

I reunited with my X girlfriend from highschool recently . I also dated her brother. Well her broyher died of a drug overdose a year ago. She also lost her Mom to alcoholism. She is not doing good at all and I am very worried about her. Any suggestions on how I can help her? She blames herself for his death. Please help!!My dear friend needs serious help, need advice?
You should continue to be supportive of her...encourage her to talk about her feelings, no matter what they are, let her get it out, and re-assure her that these things happened because of peoples own bad choices, and that she is not responsible.


Tell her she has a choice not to follow that path if t you are concerned about her re-oeating the pattern.


Take a trip down memory lane when the two of you were the happiest hanging out together and try to get her to do something you used to do in those days...go to a movie together, take her for lunch or dinner or to a spa...


This will not happen all at once and may take several attempts to make any progress, and if you can get her to laugh at something, this will help to open the door for more constructive conversation.


Talk to a mental health professional, talk to some-one you trust...maybe your mother or an uncle....My dear friend needs serious help, need advice?
She needs somebody to cry on. Somebody who is sincere in listeneing to all what she would say
hi get her to go to the doctors,or talk to her about going to counselling groups or look up the phone book in youre area and you will find call centers that will be able to help her and you as you must be in shock as regards to the brother dying ....she is lucky to have you as a friend take care xx
Your friend is still mourning the loss of her brother, and her mother, although you don't say when she died. The best thing you can do for your friend is be with her as much as you can. Listen to her...reassure her that she has a good friend in you and she can depend on you - and make sure you prove this with action. She blames herself because she feels she has to blame someone and she can't blame her brother as he's dead. Gradually, with your support and love she'll come to see that her brother was the one who made the choice to take the drugs in the first place. Whatever his circumstances HE CHOSE DRUGS. He made a mistake which unfortunately was fatal. It is tragic and she probably has mixed feelings about him. Help her to accept that he made mistake, that she can forgive him and love his memory. The same goes for her mother - forgiveness and love .





Can she learn something from those two deaths? Can she make something of her life and honour their memories with a full useful life in the future. Maybe when she starts to heal she could do something to help others with problems. She has been through a lot and would be able to understand others with similar problems.





For the time being you must listen when she wants to talk, let her know you understand her and will be there for her. Maybe you could also ask her to help you with something so that she could start to climb out of this depressing state by thinking about helping you with something - a problem maybe or practical help like decorating or something!. Show her that she's needed and valued.
unless you are a psychologist or counselor of some type, i dunno if you can help other then just be there for her, and maybe try to talk to her about seeing someone.
take her on a girls night out.





get her to have fun. get her to look on the bright side of life.





her family did die so it would be nice of you to say to her that your sorry for her loss but it wasn't your fault.





does she have a man? get her a boyfriend(good one) and let her loose.
bring her with you to a counseler or something. if you just tell her she needs to see one she might get angry and think your judging her, but if you offer to go with her, it might make her loosen up about it a little bit. and she might feel more comfortable talking to someone if she knows she has a friend with her. and just keep her busy try and take her mind off of things, and reassure her that you will always be there for her. alwayys.
Just being there to LISTEN is the best thing you can do. Self blaming is VERY common when soomeone loses a loved one. Its part of mourning. She will work through it. Again, just let her know you are there. Help her remember her loved ones if she is ready, just ask questions and get her talking about them.
You are such a good person for wanting to help her even though you guys broke up and got back 2gether. I would love to have a loyal person like you as a friend. Your girlfriend is having a rough time. Tell her that you are there to support her, she will feel better about herself. Take her mind off of it go to a theme park, see a movie, give her comfort and show you just how much u care out her.
Do anything you can to prevent her from hurting herself. Convince her that it wasn't her fault if you can, but it can be a sore subject so don't barge into it. If you do she might get angry with you for a while but more than likely she'll come around. Make sure she knows that she's got a friend that's there to help her! It's always comforting, even in the darkest and most seclusive times of our lifes, to know that there's somebody there.
beat him and throw bat on him